Every now and again I kept hearing about a book titled ‘All I Really Need To Know I Learned in Kindergarten’ by Robert Fulghum and at some point I looked up the quick summary of the book to see what it was all about. It was not until recently that the messages in the book came back to me, however not in the way I might have thought. It truly did remind me that almost everything I NEED to know, I learned in my younger years!
Having now progressed into the world of business ownership and recruiting business partners, a common objection to taking action I find arising in the people I meet, and in many instances myself as well, is that we don’t know enough, or we don’t know how to do it (‘it’ being whatever is the necessary action to take), or we don’t know how to live a balanced life, or we don’t know how to properly interact with people, etc. These things that we look to overcome – or many times completely shy away from to the detriment of our own personal progress and fulfillment – are things that, believe it or not, we have already overcome! Brian Tracy says that if you’ve had a tough childhood, you’re better off than someone who has had it easy. Why? Because time and time again you’ve bounced back; you faced tough times with friends, or parents, or curfew, or fitting in, and you’ve bounced back. You already have the tools for success.
Most of the fear and excuses the conscious part of our brain comes up with when we are trying something new evaporates immediately when we realize that at some point over the course of our life (mostly when we were kids) that we stood up to some great obstacle and overcame it. The time that we mustered up enough courage to talk to the boy/girl we had a crush on; the time that we didn’t know what was on the other side of the bushes, but we crawled through anyway; the time that we had to ask for help in spite of our pride. This list can go on and on, and soon we realize that the very fears and anxieties that paralyze us from taking action today are the same fears that we overcame as children or teenagers.
So, how can we utilize this for our benefit? Good question! Best answer I have that has made a difference in my life is the advice of my mentor, Jim Rohn, and that is to keep a journal. Yes, something so small can be so monumental to your success. Your journal is your brain’s playground. You can write about your goals, your dreams, your success stories, your thoughts, quotes, testimonials, advice, etc. An important note to make in your journals is the obstacles you face at times in your life, and with it, the memories of how you overcame that obstacle as a child. It may sound ridiculously simplistic, but isn’t that what has the best results? If it’s simple it’s easy to understand. As children, our simple minds came up with the quickest answers; now as adults our clouded minds look to complicate things.
Make a note everyday of your successes and your obstacles, then look to your own memories on how to overcome those obstacles. And you will notice that one day at a time you will be tracking your progress, inch by inch moving forward, building momentum until one day you look back across the pages of your journal and you realize how far you’ve come.
If the answers you seek aren’t there, then read the biographies of successful people in your field. Their lives may hold the secret to your success. For a selection of material that has made a difference in my life, see the Books and Resources page.